Confessions of a Newlywed-He's GOT to be wrong...

Have you ever let pride get in the way of your marriage? I have. I know my husband's weak points and I know how to push his buttons, I'd like to think I don't do this often, but I know, in my head that I can and I have. He hates it when I'm quiet, I refuse to yell, I grew up around that and I'm not doing it. I need time to gather my thoughts when we disagree and he wants to chat about it right now....I need to process because I WILL say something I regret and I have enough sins to contend with. A friend I recently connected with on Instagram sent me a video this week that expains WHY men are so damn irritating... their brains are LITERALLY the opposite of a woman, even as far as how their vision works. This explainsn every complaint I have about his driving or his lack of being able to find ANYTHING that's right in front of his literal face... if that didn't make me feel better, nothing will. And it made me appreciate him a little more too. Here's a link: https://youtu.be/uHzSwsIGFUY

Tell me this doesn't change everything for you. Go ahead, I'll give you 9 minutes to watch, it's definitely worth your time.

Men are irritating, there's no doubt about it.... but maybe we are too. I always said that it would take a special kind of man to marry me, and God knew what He was doing when He paired us. And as irritating and he can be, I know I'm just as bad. And my constant need to correct his shortcomings serves no one well, has it ever worked for you?

I love him, I do. I just need to like him. And I want to. I think that's half the battle. We get so in the groove of who we want them to be and how we want them to be, we forget to love them for WHO they already are, made perfectly in the image of God... I wonder if Jesus was as forgetful as Darrel is.... what do you think? Do you think He lost his sandals and asked Mary or Mary Magdelene where the heck he took them off at? He was a man, a sinless man, but even a sinless man may be forgetful... lol, I don't know, but I'm curious.

So, why do you think God created us SO dang differently? I suspect it's because He wanted us to come to Him for all things, to use Him as the ultimate marriage counselor, because, honestly, who's better qualified that the God who made us Himself?

As women we hate thinking we're wrong or that our man knows better, but sometimes we have to humble ourselves, admit that pride is preventing us from living as God intended, in HOLY MATRIMONY, Holy matrimony is a sacrament uniting one man and one woman to each other and to God for the sake of salvation of their own souls and to help share in Christ's mission in the world. A God-inspired unity of self-sacrifice. Holy marriage is NOT merely a human commitment or contract between two parties. From www.arlingtondioces.org, I'm not Catholic, but i think this is a pretty amazing definition.

Maybe, the whole 'God-inspired unity of self-sacrifice' part should be more of a focus for us. Self-Sacrifice. How have you sacrificed yourself in relation of your marriage today? How have you submitted to your husband today? And don't tell me you don't 'submit' to your husband, because, beloved, that is the Bible's INSTRUCTION for marriage. Not to say I'm great at it by any means and it doesn't mean, bow down and become less than, it simply means that if your husband is a Godly man, as he should be, He should be the Spiritual leader of your home.

Marriage is hard. Marriage is work. Marriage is humbling yourself to God, overcoming pride, ego and the feeling that it has to be your way. There's a better way and it begins with God leading every aspect from finances, to sex, to relationships, to your home, kids, all of it. It's God's provision that allows us to live this life, let's give Him all the glory instead of trying to control every aspect. Not an easy task, especially for us ladies, but one He is calling us to be obedient to. Will you obey?