Confessions of a Newlywed- Sex Addition Part 2-The Orgasm

Oh my gosh, my husband will KILL me if he ever reads this. Some things just aren't meant to be shared Lindy... but I feel like we don't talk about sex ENOUGH. And that, my friends, is the female orgasm. Do you know how intricately God created us? He made us perfectly, in His image, isn't that amazing!? I think so. He knew EXACTLY what He was doing. Now, to find the orgasm is another thing and I think that it is VITAL, in marriage, to know how and what our significant other's bodies work, the things they like and let me tell you, that sex should be a two-way street, each party getting theirs, if ya know what I mean...

If you're not having an orgasm during sex, we've gotta have a convo with our significant other. Sex is meant to be an intimate experience for BOTH parties, not just one. I know there can be shame in marriage, especially as women who've struggled with infertility or dryness in areas that make sex uncomfortable. But if you're having sex and you're not both experiencing an orgasm, we've got to MAKE time to understand how our bodies work and know what makes the other person happy and makes them tick...tick, BOOM!

There shouldn't be shame in sex. God designed sex for marriage, and He made it GOOD. Do you know what you like in the bedroom? Does your husband know what you like? Are you telling him? Are you making time for intimacy? Are you putting on something cute and reminding him of easier times? DO IT LADIES! And if he needs a little help in this area, show him, lovingly, explain to him, lovingly and let it be an experience you enjoy together.

Someone accused me recently of 'encouraging spousal rape' and that couldn't be farther from the truth. As someone who was raped at 19, I would NEVER, EVER, suggest such a thing. But I WOULD suggest that you explore with your husband, let go of a little control in this area, stop viewing sex as a chore and learn to enjoy the intimacy this part of your marriage can have. This is the ONLY thing you have that's just yours together, ENJOY every second of it! Make time for it. Know your body, know his body, explain to him what you NEED and let it be a time of connection for you both. There is no shame in sex, enjoy it and HAVE IT OFTEN!